In 1952, when I was a toddler, my parents, Cullen and Naomi Cantees, along with my brother and me, moved from the safety of my Lebanese father’s family-owned apartment into a houseDad built a few miles away, next to my Mother’s parents. From the den of my Lebanese grandparents, cousins, uncles, and aunts in the metropolis of Williamson, West Virginia, population 5,000, to the solitude of my German grandfather and English grandmother, Larcey and Jette Dinguess, at the foot of a coal camp in Hardy, Kentucky. A mountain raced up behind our new house and a large tree stretched wide branches across a vast expanse of crab grass.
My brother and I foraged through the mountain behind our house hunting blackberries and raspberries like playful bear cubs, and, when we were older, we explored the abandoned tipple across the way, which was positively forbidden.
My grandmother babysat my brother and me while my parents worked. She also took care of my grandfather, a former coal mine foreman, who at sixty was dying of black lung disease. Soon after we moved to Hardy he died. My memory of him is vague, but my mother said he was as well-respected as a man could be, fair with his men, and everyone.
Sometime after my grandfather’s death, my aunt, LoRayne Dinguess, mother’s sister, who promoted health careers in North Carolina, left her fancy city job and came home to stay with my grandmother.
She smoked! Very few women in my world smoked and I tried desperately to emulate her, picking up the ashtray stubs, pooching out my lips and sucking in on the nasty butts. She also sashayed around the small house next to ours in drapy muumuus with flashy colored prints. What she lacked in style, which wasn’t much to my small mind, she made up for in sheer size and embellishment. She was sassy, just like my two fabulous Lebanese aunts! My mother said LoRayne could do anything, and sure enough, after stints at several jobs, she became the society editor of the Williamson Daily News.
My stars, her descriptions of weddings made William and Kate’sroyal extravaganza sound like hillbilly nuptials along the Tug Fork River. “The bride beamed as layers of sheer pale lace cascaded around her shoulders, tapering down the length of her torso and then curving and arching over icy white crepe de sheen outlining the bodice of the skirt. ” Whew. LoRayne did everything with panache. And she did everything for the Lord, puffingon skinny Virginia Slim cigarettes dangled from her lips, and swearing she didn’t inhale.
Across the two-lane road from our house and my grandmother’s house sat a brown-shingled one-story church, with a small steeple and about five front steps. For as long as I remember, it set empty, dandelions blowing like snow spurts across the expanse of a small surrounding field. But, when LoRayne came home the church came alive. Somehow she wrangled keys to the double-wide doors. She cleaned it from top to bottom, painted, mowed down the weeds, and planted trees and shrubs. She became the janitor, grass cutter, and window cleaner, and when she officially opened the doors for “business” some time later, she served as lay reader, preacher scout, Sunday School superintendent, soloist, and, in general, the official “go to” person. I was probably about seven by then and two or so years later, I became the exceedingly off-key substitute pianist. One of my favorite hymns was and will forever be “The Little Brown Church in the Wildwood.”
One day as LoRayne was mowing the lawn she heard the voice of the Lord. She said it wasn’t a booming voice, just still and quiet. If it had been booming, she’d have been more eager, I think. She couldn’t decide if she should obey and possibly make a fool of herself or just forget she heard it. LoRayne still picked up hitchhikers because the Lord told her to, so I knew she’d go for the ‘making a fool of herself’ option. I actually think I remember this story, that I might have been there helping her decide what to do about her quandary, but it could be that I just heard it so often it seemed I was there.
Anyway, she was to go to the general store above the third camp and buy as many groceries as the money in her pocketbook allowed. Then she should take the groceries to a family living in the third and last camp. Two stuffed bags of groceries later, she was trying to decide how to approach the door of a couple’s house she didn’t know, except to say hello. And now she was to give them . . . groceries. Two teeming bags. It’s not like taking flowers. Or even fruit.
“People are proud. What if they take offense?” she said, and rightfully so. I feel embarrassed for her just thinking about it.
So, wrestling the two bags of groceries to the front door of the house, she sat one bag down, and knocked on the door. Finally, the man of the house, Mr. Walters, we’ll call him, answered.
“Mr. Walters,” said LoRayne, handing him one bag of groceries,” I know this looks strange, but then the Lord works in strange and wonderful ways.” Those were the last words she uttered before being hugged so tightly she said she couldn’t breathe and then already in a one-arm stronghold, was plucked up and placed inside the front door. Did I mention that my aunt was not a small woman?
Tears overcame Mr. Walters. LoRayne didn’t have to mention that the Lord spoke to her regarding the groceries, you see, he and his wife had been praying for a miracle all that morning. For whatever reason, money was scarce and there was nothing in the Walter’s house to eat.
We got used to the Lord speaking to LoRayne, whether she was mowing the lawn at the little brown church or waiting on a train at a rail road crossing. Watching LoRayne, I learned how much God cares for His flock–how He uses people to answer prayers. I can’t help but wonder how much human suffering could be eliminated or erased if more people were listening; maybe even willing to take the chance of making fools of themselves.
The founts of knowledge and gadgets we are always plugged into today–televisions, computers, those blasted ear buds–have tuned out the Father ofwisdom and love. They’ve turned us away from the sweetest sound imaginable–the simple amazement of God’s still, small voice.
Remember your lovely Aunt LoRayne. Thanks for sharing this great story … Feel the love you and so many others had for her. I grew up thinking she was related to my Aunt Audrey to find out later she was just good friends along with your Mother..
Sue, I thought Connie was my cousin! So, we were on the same page. I’m so glad you could feel the love. It is truly a step back in time to write these stories. These small towns and the people who live there shaped me, and I’m so grateful they were all so generous.
I love your LoRayne!
Among the many things that we have in common, while you and your brother foraged for blackberries, so did my cousin and I, but in Northern California. As you were to stay away from the Tipple, so we were to stay away from the Empire Mine – one of the last operating gold mines in that part of the state, but were there kids and imagination…..
Thank you for another lovely story of the things that made you into the woman that you are today – my friend.
Yes, LoRayne was quite a character, Ingrid! You would have loved her. She was very independent for a woman her age, but very dependent on the Lord! She helped give me my religious grit. It doesn’t surprise me a bit that we have so many things in commmon! You are truly my sister in Christ! xo
Karen, I had begun a comment last nite when my notebook battery decided to die. Hopefully, this is not a repeat! I discovered your blog through a friend’s post on facebook. Reading your inspirational stories has taken me back to a special time & place. We share a little connection . As a child, I was in awe of my teenage aunt Virginia Dare, her friends Naomi & Audrey. They were so cool! By the time I was a teen in ’52, they were married, & i was aware of the social times, the fun they still enjoyed & the families they had begun. Is the Little Brown Church the Methodist Church at Hardy? LoRayne & my aunt Alene spoke many times on the phone in later years. Alene, too, was quite a character! You have been blessed with such a gift in your writing. It is wonderful to read your description of family, events & your faith journey. They, too, would make a fabulous book! Keep them coming!
Nancy Brinkley Scott
Nancy, I loved your Aunt Dare! She was the throaty, down to earth one of the foursome that I knew as great friends: my mother Naomi, Audrey, Logene, and of course, Dare. They were all so pretty and smart. And, yes, they had fun. The church is still there, but it’s white now. I love the memories that I have from the church and my time at Hardy. And I do remember Alene, though less than Dare, but LoRayne mentioned her often. And Dare called me twice before she died and her daughter Kathy and I spoke some time after her death. You have great genes! Wonderful people. I’m on Facebook btw. And I’ll keep them coming! It’s wonderful to hear from you! One of the blessings God has given me from my writing is hearing from people I’ve lost touch with!
Oh Karyn! What a lovely, beautifully written remembrance of a sweet, dear lady. I had been around LoRayne a few times when we would visit Williamson, and I still fondly remember her infectious smile. She always had a BIG hug for us! Thank you for sharing your sweet memories. xoxo
Dee, I can’t tell you how much it means to me for you to respond. Yes, she did always have a hug and a smile. I’ve had some wonderful relatives in my life, and you are one of them!!! xox
Oh Karyn these words about LoRayne were lovely! If all of us would listen for that still quiet voice what a better place the world would be! Love you!
Sheila, you are so right. I’m just imaging how different the world would be if people actually listened for the voice of God! Thank you so much for responding and for your kind words! xo